Things I Wore (and Did) in November 2017

I don’t have the perfect life—and some months are harder to get through than others. November was a tough one: my mental health is suffering; my job is, at times, challenging; and the month ended with some particularly disheartening and upsetting family drama.

I think, too often, we all get caught up in depicting a picture-perfect life with beautifully curated photos (that we’re reluctant to admit are only a few among dozens we took before we got the right one to post and share) and cherry-picked anecdotes (that leave out all of the messy, unflattering things that happen in between). We only show parts of our lives, partly because it’s completely unrealistic to share everything and partly because who wants to admit they’re struggling?

But we’re all struggling, at least in some way, and we’ve all got things going on in our lives at any given moment that may be vexing us, hurting us, or challenging us.

I try my best to keep this in mind as I scroll through my social media feeds day after day, seeing only the highlights from the lives of friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances, high school classmates, and celebrities, but sometimes it’s can be tough to keep that in perspective.

So, this is me, reminding myself that it’s all right if everything isn’t all right.

And also reminding myself that there’s nothing wrong with having a highlight reel if for no one but ourselves so that we can look back on the time (which goes by too quickly!) and appreciate the things we have. As someone who struggles with mental illness in the form of anxiety and depression, I often have trouble keeping things in perspective, of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and sometimes of just making it through the day. But I know that these monthly check-ins, where I look back on the month I’ve just experienced, are providing me with the ability to feel grateful for what I have even on days that feel dark.

With that said, there were many beacons of light that I experienced in November, which I’ve got to remind myself of: a perfect trip to Portsmouth with Bill; the satisfaction of a job well done on a massive project I worked on at work; beautiful sunsets; a rainbow; a book of poems I devoured; warm hot chocolate; a glowing Christmas tree in my wonderful home; a new therapist; a drag show featuring a few of my favorite RuPaul’s Drag Race queens; hundreds of happy moments with Bill; lots of dog kisses from Obi; making new friends at work; thoughtful daily texts from my Grandma; meme-sharing with my wonderful brother; laughter with friends, both online and off.

Amid all of that, here are some of the outfits I wore.

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  • Dress: Fashion to Figure (has anyone else felt like their style has completely changed recently?)
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: Rainbow

This is of my fave classic winter looks.

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

This dress is so creamy soft!

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  • Dress: Ann Taylor via 20 Below Boutique in Portsmouth
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Shirt: Target
  • Scarf: Unsure!
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Cozy, winter sweaters were what I lived in this month. I’m not a huge fan of the look of this one, but this is the same exact sweater (except for color) as the photo at the end of this post. In that photo, I think the sweater looks great. What gives?

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Sweater: Forever 21
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Boots: DSW

Bill called this my “Lorelai Gilmore” look, which delighted me.

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  • Sweater: Forever 21
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Not really an outside-of-the-house outfit, but still! Festive!

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  • Sweater: Walmart
  • Leggings: Walmart
  • Sweater boots: Payless

This is one of my new favorite shirts! I added a Hocus Pocus patch, which I nabbed in Portsmouth (the patch itself is made by Laser Brain Patch Co.) to a cheap, black crewneck sweatshirt I grabbed on Amazon for $8. I got a ton of compliments on it and feel super proud even though all I did was iron the patch on.

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

And, here are some of the things I did.

xo.

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Things I Wore (and Did) in July 2017

One of my favorite parts about looking back on the month’s outfits is that it gives me a good sense of all of the things I’ve done recently.

I sometimes find myself feeling like I don’t “do” anything, like I spend far too much time on Twitter retweeting jokes or on the couch rewatching “RuPaul’s Drag Race.”

But Bill and I have some pretty awesome adventures, which can be easy to forget when I’m lazing about the house. This is such a nice way for me to be reminded of all of the little and big moments I have with him and that I have with myself.

July 2017 was a big month for me. I wrapped up my time working at a job I mostly enjoyed, and that was tough. I had to say goodbye to colleagues I really cared about and respected and friends I admired and loved. I said goodbye to a 10-minute commute and super short work days. I said goodbye to my first-ever office. I said goodbye to the job that helped my husband and I realize that western Massachusetts was the right place for the two of us to settle down. But I needed to go. So I left because I was treated very, very unfairly by my boss and I knew I deserved better, and because the light on my future there was slowly dimming. It was not an easy decision.

And I started a new job, one I was very excited about, a brand new role as Diversity Communications Manager that would combine my love for communications and writing with my passion for social justice. It’s the first job where I can be my whole self, where I won’t have to shield parts of me. I can bring the social justice knowledge I seek outside of work into my actual job. It feels liberating. I’ll admit it was scary—absolutely terrifying—to make the leap from a job where I felt comfortable to a job that would make me begin anew. But sometimes the scary thing is absolutely the right thing to do, even if it’s hard. My first three weeks have been incredible; they’ve pushed me to exercise skills I haven’t used in years and I feel like I’m really valued and heard and respected. I’m so happy I made the leap, and I hope it only gets better from here.

As for the rest of July, I took some trips to the beach. I found myself enthralled by poetry. I read a bunch. I spent time outside in the sun. Bill and I went to a drag show, we traveled to the Berkshires, we were inspired by art, we explored western Mass a little.

All in all, life is good.

And here’s what I wore.

My last day of work. Sadly, this also means it’s the last photo EVER with that polka-dotted wall. I shall miss it!

Outfit details

  • Dress: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: DSW
  • Necklace: Target
  • NEW GLASSES: Zenni Optical

I feel so beautiful in this dress. It reminds me of the flamenco dancers we saw when we were in Barcelona. (I literally cannot believe that I got to type that sentence. Who even am I?)

Despite feeling beautiful in this dress, it’s not exactly practical. But what better event to wear it to than a drag show?

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  • Dress: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Target

First day on the new job! I had been stressing about what to wear. I wanted something professional, but not too formal… and I also wanted something that wouldn’t make me too hot. It is the dead of summer, after all. I settled on this beautiful dress, WHICH HAS POCKETS! And shoutout to my first selfie at my new job.

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  • Dress: Amazon.com (which I am realizing is pretty awesome for cute, affordable dresses)
  • Shoes: Target

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  • Shirt: LuLaRoe Perfect T
  • Skirt: Charlotte Russe
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Amelia—still can’t tell if these dresses look flattering on me or not, but they do have POCKETS!
  • Shoes: DSW

A scorching hot day made for the perfect opportunity to wear this new Marshall’s score—only $15! The pattern is little ships in boats. Very summery.

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  • Dress: Marshall’s

I bought two of these wrap dresses from Forever 21 about a year ago, but they really hold up.

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  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Julia
  • Shrug: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Payless

And here’s a peek at what I did in July.

Anyone else excited for fall, the best season of the year?

xo.

Outfits of May 2017

May was full of incredible adventures and, looking back, I still can’t believe how much I managed to pack in there.

My husband and I took a trip to California and the moment we got back, I attended a baby shower for one of my good friends (and the shower my lady girl gang from work!). I got my hair cut (!), worked a graduation, turned 29, and celebrated my birthday with family, friends, and my husband, who had a thrilling weekend planned for me.

Here’s what I wore. I originally wanted a Minnie Mouse-inspired dress to wear to Disneyland, but the one I ordered (sadly) didn’t fit. So I had to improvise. I wanted something cute and feminine, but I still wanted to be comfortable. This worked out well!

Outfit details

  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Shoes: DSW (Converse)
  • Minnie Mouse ears: Disney World

You can’t see this outfit up close, but I love these photos, so I had to include them! My husband, my parents, and I traveled on a deserted road to get to Antelope Valley Poppy Reserve, so we stopped to snap some photos.

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Nicole
  • Shoes: Payless

This outfit served me well at Hearst Castle and at Montano de Oro beach. I DIE for this shirt, which is a reference to both the Coolio song and one of my favorite movies, “Clueless.”

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  • Shirt: Ross (I’m OBSESSED. Why don’t we have any in Massachusetts?!)
  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Shoes: DSW

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Shirt: Old Navy

Skirt: Forever 21

Shoes: DSW


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  • Shirt: H&M (my new fave shirt)
  • Jeans: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Payless

How beautiful are the women in my lady girl gang?!

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Nicole
  • Shoes: Payless

This was the last photo of me with my long hair!

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  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Leggings: LuLaRoe
  • Cardigan: Forever 21
  • Shoes: Payless

New hair! It was a bit shorter than I asked for (I asked for my hair to stay below my shoulders), but I’m getting used to it.

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  • Shirt: Marshall’s
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Skirt: Ross
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Amelia (my first!)
  • Cardigan: Gift from my mom
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: Old Navy
  • Jacket: TJ Maxx
  • Shoes: Payless

And here’s a peek at my incredible birthday weekend (and the days leading up to it). My husband planned a surprise weekend, which he revealed to me through a series of riddles given to me each day leading up to it. It was so incredibly creative and romantic and it got me even more pumped for a wonderful weekend. We visited an arcade; went out to dinner; stopped by a brewery; I got my nails done; we went to a vineyard; visited Mystic; and ate all kinds of delicious foods. My friends and family were wonderful to me, too. I’m so lucky.

xo.

Outfits of January 2017

Y’all, it’s been a month. This is me doing my best to keep living a good life despite being overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, and (quite frankly) scared at the America we’re living in right now.

But I digress.

In January, I read some books, saw some movies, shopped a lot, ate some delicious food, celebrated some friends at a baby shower, got back into cooking. I also set up a place to take better outfit photos. However, I haven’t used it yet because it’s in my sunroom and it’s cold in there. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

This month, I also got into (and quickly became addicted to) LulaRoe. Like I needed another reason to spend money. But check out my first pair of leggings at the end of this post!

Here’s what I wore this month.

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Outfit details

  • Shirt: Target
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Scarf: Newbury Comics
  • Boots: DSW

A closer look at the scarf.

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  • Dress: Old Navy
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Shirt: Marshall’s
  • Pants: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: 25 Central (my new favorite store, located in Northampton, Mass.)
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Dress: Target
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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HOW CUTE IS THIS DRESS?! It’s an owl pattern and it has pockets!

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  • Dress: 25 Central
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Here’s a close-up of the pattern.

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Outfit details

  • Dress: Amazon.com (so cute I got it in two colors)
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Shoes: DSW

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  • Dress: Fashion to Figure
  • Tights: We Love Colors (I have at least five pairs off these black tights)
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Shirt: Cracker Barrel (not joking)
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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And here are my new LulaRoe leggings! They’re lipstick print and I love them.

Outfit details

  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Leggings: LulaRoe (!!!)
  • Slippers: Payless

Here’s a close-up!

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And here’s a sassy selfie of me, just because.

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Hope you’re being kind to yourself in 2017. And dressing cute, too.

xo.

Outfits of October

Last October was excellent, but this has been the best October ever. Not only did I get to honeymoon with my husband, we also got to celebrate Halloween with an incredible weekend at the historic Deerfield Inn for dinner and a spooky ghost tour around Northampton, Mass. October is the best month of the year, guys.

Here’s what I wore!

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All black everything.

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  • Black boat neck top: Target
  • Tank top: Target
  • Blazer: Target
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Dress: Forever 21 (LOVE THIS DRESS SO MUCH)
  • Shoes (not pictured): Payless
Me and my "I CAN'T BELIEVE I'M IN ROME" face in the Farnese Gardens
Me and my “I CAN’T BELIEVE I’M IN ROME” face in the Farnese Gardens

Outfit details

  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Scarf: Little shop in Barcelona, Spain
  • Shoes: Payless (super comfy)

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  • Dress: Fashion to Figure
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Cardigan: Old Navy
  • Scarf: Shop in Marseille, France
  • Shoes: Payless

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Your eyes do not deceive you. These are pizza pajamas.

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  • Pizza pajamas more appropriate for a toddler than an adult: Target
  • Dope Halloween nail decals: Homegoods

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  • Scarf: Amazon.com
  • Cardigan: Target
  • Tank top: Old Navy
  • Pants: Marshall’s
  • Boots: Rainbow

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  • Shirt: Target
  • Tank top: Target
  • Jeans: Old Navy (Rockstar, highly recommend!)
  • Boots: DSW

On this day, I also made my first-ever pernil (in a crock pot no less) and it came out amazing.

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I can adult.

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Outfit details

  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Tank top: Old Navy
  • Shoes: DSW
  • Coat: Hand-me-down from my mom

On this night, we enjoyed Deerfield and Northampton, where we got a little ice cream and got spooked by some ghost stories.

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And then, for my Halloween outfit…

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I’m the galaxy! Or, a galaxy princess!

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Outfit details

  • Dress: Amazon.com
  • Shoes: Payless
  • Crown: Crafted with some Christmas tinsel
  • Earrings: Etsy
  • Necklace: Etsy
  • Glasses: Glassesshop.com
  • Star stickers: Amazon.com
  • Shiny ring: Norwegian Cruise Line

Happy Halloween!

xo.