What I Wore (and Did) in May 2018

May was a truly magical month. I always tend to love May: warmer weather, longer days, and it’s my birth month so I’m very biased.

But this May was extra great. First, I was promoted at work, and as of June 4, I’m officially back in the social media realm! I’m so, so, so excited (and it’s been fantastic so far). I also had so much fun spending time with Bill and friends and Obi.

Also: I turned 30.

And, I didn’t just turn 30. I turned 30 in style. Like, as a spoiled 30-year-old princess and I loved every single second. It started with an incredible gift from Bill—meet-and-greet tickets to see my favorite drag queen, Trixie Mattel. I MEAN. I’m not exaggerating when I say that night was one of the best of my life.

If you’re a fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race, or if you’re even just a fan of Trixie, then you know she’s hysterical. I’d been dying to see one of her live shows, which mixes comedy with her folk music. Bill and I had meet-and-greet tickets to one of her shows back in September but, unfortunately, weren’t able to go. So this was everything!

Before the show, WE GOT TO MEET HER. I was so nervous that I got drunk, despite having done this once before and despite knowing she’d be perfectly lovely, which she was. I was also able to give her a gift: an adorable beaded Miss Vanjie bracelet. When I handed the bracelet over to her, rambling about how I bought it for her and didn’t make it, she put the bracelet on her wrist and said to me, “You had to buy this? You dumb bitch.”

Trixie Mattel called me a dumb bitch I expect to see that on my gravestone. 

I also got to take a photo with one of my favorite local drag queens, Mia E Z’lay, who performs regularly at Drag Brunch in Holyoke, Mass., which Bill and I love to go to. It was awesome!

Then there was the show. I don’t think I’ve laughed that hard in a really long time; I laughed until my stomach hurt, until my throat ached, and until I cried, and then I laughed some more. I laughed so hard that I made friends with the (very drunk) couple in front of me who couldn’t stop laughing every time I laughed. Trixie’s show was the perfect mix of smart comedy and terrible puns, 90s music that’s so bad it’s good, skits, high-brow jokes, low-brow jokes, drag jokes, and folk music. I loved literally every single second of it, including the time I spent inhaling two bags of peanut M&Ms in between my bajillion glasses of wine.

That alone would’ve been an incredible birthday.

But then the next day Bill and I left for a seven-day cruise to the Caribbean. I KNOW. Whose life is this?!

More details on the cruise to come, but here’s what I wore during this momentous month!

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  • Dress: Old Navy
  • Jean jacket: TJ Maxx
  • Shoes: Tieks

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Amelia (shortened because my lil legs weren’t built for Amelias)
  • Shoes: Payless

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How cute is this 90s kid T-shirt? It was a gift from my cousin and I have no idea where he bought it, but I wanted to include it anyway!

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  • Dress: LuLaRoe Carly
  • Shirt: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: DSW

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Ya girl’s Trixie Mattel outfit. It’s not every day I rock a see-through top, but this was my favorite drag queen’s comedy show, and if you can’t show your bra to a drag queen, who can you show it to?

Outfit details

  • Bra: Cacique
  • Dress: Amazon
  • Shows: Payless

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  • Shirt: Target
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Shoes: Tieks

Cruise outfits

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  • Body suit: Rainbow
  • Shorts: Rainbow
  • Earrings: 25 Central

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Outfit details (me)

  • Bathing suit: Charlotte Russe
  • Skirt: LuLaRoe Maxi
  • Shoes: Amazon
  • Backpack: Target

Outfit details (Bill)

  • Shirt: Target
  • Shorts: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Nike (“On discount!”—Bill)
  • Sunglasses: “Those sweet babes are from a store in Honduras.”—Bill

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Outfit details

  • Bathing suit: Charlotte Russe
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Shoes: Amazon

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  • Bathing suit (clearly, I lived in this): Charlotte Russe
  • Shorts: Rainbow
  • Shoes: Amazon

And, here’s a peek at what I did. (Does not include cruise photos!)

 

 

Thanks, May, for being dope. And thank you, Bubby, for making my birthday extra, extra special.

xo.

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Things I Did (and Wore) in April 2018

I’m happy. I’ve been feeling like I’m at a great place in my life—with my husband and my dog, of course, who are my lights—but with everything else, too: work, friends, family, me. Things just feel good and I’m trying to savor that feeling. My therapist has been trying to help me be more positive (Lizandra, you’d be so proud) and I feel like it’s been working. Maybe it’s the sunshine or maybe it’s just that life can just be pretty great sometimes. All I know is I want to bask in this.

That said, I haven’t been taking as many outfit photos lately, especially as I’ve been working hard to get my spending under control (thus, less new clothes to show off). But I did nab a couple of photos!

Here are some of the things I wore in April.

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I really like this dress, which is a great combination of loose and cute and also it has pockets which you all know that I love.

Outfit details

  • Dress: 25 Central
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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It took me a while to wear this outfit as I feel like it’s the most I’ve ever shown off my belly. Let’s be real: I’m fat, and my polycystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) makes it so that I tend to carry my weight right in my stomach. So, it took me a long time of staring at this dress (a gift from my mom) in my closet before I finally gained the courage to wear it out.

I wore it.

And nothing bad happened!

I even felt pretty good in it. I am always seeing these amazing plus-size beauties on Instagram showing off their belly, so why not me? It may not be an all-the-time thing for me, but I shouldn’t be ashamed of my body. It’s taken me nearly 30 years to realize that, and I definitely still struggle (especially with feelings about my upper arms and back), but I’m working on it.

Outfit details

  • Dress: LuLaRoe (thanks, ma!)
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: DSW
  • Cardigan: Forever 21

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Okay, so, this isn’t a typical “what I wore” photo, but I did wear this makeup, and I loved it. I never wear lipstick, but I think I could! On a lazy Saturday afternoon, I decided to toy around with some of the makeup that’s been piling up in my vanity (a combination of Ipsy gems and my impulse purchases).

Surprisingly, I loved this red matte lip.

Then I decided to venture even further out of the box and go for a red glitter lip, because why not?

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Plus, here are things I did in April, which included:

  • Savoring every magnificent moment of Beychella (and then obsessing over it, talking about it, thinking about it, listening to other people analyze it, and loving it all over again)
  • Listening to new music, including the Cardi B and Chloe x Halle albums
  • Finally meeting up with April, my longtime Tumblr/Twitter friend, as she visited Brown in Providence (I love the internet! Thanks for bringing me such great friends!)
  • Finished a lovely, wonderful project at work called “Building Bridges”, which was aimed at bringing people together across their differences and celebrate the diversity in this big, beautiful world
  • Took advantage of the first nice day in April with my husband and visited our favorite winery
  • Had dinner with Bill and two wonderful (new to me, old to him!) friends
  • Spent some quality time with my friends and their hilarious, adorable kids
  • Ate some pie because of some good work news (which I can share soon!)
  • Petted dogs at work because of course
  • Tried to go to People’s Court (yes, the TV show), failed, and turned the day around by stopping by Milkcraft for some incredible ice cream

 

A great April and I’m ready for May, an upcoming vacation, and turning 30!

xo.

Things I Wore (And Did) in February 2018

All month long, I kept telling myself I just needed to get through February and I’d be that much closer to spring—and it ended up being a lot easier than I thought! It helped that February was overall a pretty good month, with lots of fun plans.

I had brunch plans with friends; had an incredible Valentine’s Day with my husband, which included spending time in the Berkshires and Mass MoCA; celebrated Galentine’s Day with friends; enjoyed bonding time with one of my close friends, Laraine, and her son, O; visited my grandma; went house hunting for Bill’s parents (who will be returning to Connecticut soon); and saw Black Panther. Can’t really ask for much more during an otherwise dreary and cold month!

Here’s what I wore.

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This LBD from LuLaRoe is one of my favorites. I spent all last year thinking I looked best in LLR Nicole dresses and Perfect Ts… but it turns out the Julia dress is what truly has my heart. I love it! I have three Julias that are staples in my wardrobe, including this recent black purchase.

Outfit details

  • Dress: LuLaRoe Julia
  • Shrug: Forever 21
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: DSW

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Outfit details

  • Dress: 25 Central
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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I rocked a version of this same outfit last month, but this time I went without leggings because it was a relatively warm day! Realizing now the bottom of the skirt was a tad wrinkly, but oh well.

Outfit details

  • Dress: Target
  • Skirt: LuLaRoe Cassie
  • Shoes: Tieks

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My husband summed this outfit up best: “You Blossom-looking motherfucker.” He’s not wrong. (A friend pointed out the outfit is probably more like Six, but you get the point.)

Outfit details

  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: Payless

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With the cold weather fading (no complaints from me!!!), I’m running out of time to wear this sweater dress, so I made the most of it.

Outfit details

  • Dress: 25 Central
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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Another warm day!

Outfit details

  • Shirt: Target
  • Skirt: LuLaRoe Cassie
  • Shoes: Tieks

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I’ve had this dress for a bit and I was so excited to wear it on March 1! It really felt like I was saying hello to spring.

Outfit details

  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Shoes: Payless

Here’s a peek into what I did this month, too.

 

How was your month?

xo.

Things I Wore (and Did) in January 2018

If January isn’t for snuggling with your dog, then what’s it for, anyway? Looking back on my photos from this month, it’s clear I spent a lot of time inside the house bundled up and petting, snuggling with, and admiring my dog—which is exactly how I like spending my winters.

Other highlights include:

  • Dinners and brunches with friends (I love my friends and I love having friends, which is kind of a new-ish thing for me!)
  • Winning an award for a project I managed at work (!)
  • Attending the Women’s March
  • Going to my first-ever local drag brunch with my husband
  • Taking a Skillshare writing class
  • Working in therapy to try to see things more positively, stick up for myself, please others less, and put myself first

I also got sick with a terrible cold and tried (and failed) to get Hamilton tickets that won’t cost me all 10 of my fingers and toes. You win some; you lose some.

In 2018—which is my 30th year on this earth—I’m doing my best to really focus on the things that are important: the people I love, including myself. I have been working hard this month to treat those close to me with kindness and also to prioritize my own mental and physical health and well-being.

It’s really easy to find excuses not to put yourself first. While I’m quick to tell others, “treat yo’self!” I’ve only tended to use that phrase as a reason to spend money frivolously and eat whatever I felt like. Those were easy ways for me to feel like I was treating myself, but really, I was just kind of giving in to habits that made me feel good in the moment but overall left me troubled. I’m doing my best to reign both of those habits in and to focus on actual, true self-care, which (for me) includes tackling the sometimes tedious or difficult things that are good for me. I think, in addition to living with less fear in 2018, I’m also trying to embrace moderation. We’ll see how it goes.

In all, January was a good month, and I feel like making it through it means that spring is just within reach.

Here’s what I wore!

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(Special appearance by Obi, who is wearing a sweater from my grandma)

Outfit details

  • Dress: Amazon
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: Payless
  • Necklace: 25 Central

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  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Boots: From my mom

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I wore this to the Women’s March, which I felt was the perfect shirt. I didn’t attend last year’s (I was too depressed) but was thrilled when some friends invited me to attend this year, and the march left me feeling really empowered and strong. This is the same one (in pink) that Frank Ocean wore in concert a while back. The shirt is available from Green Box Shop, which is a small business owned by a young woman of color. Check it out! (The one downside about the shirt is it wrinkles really easily, but I love it otherwise!)

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I wore this to drag brunch AND HAD THE TIME OF MY LIFE. It was so much fun to support our local drag queens. Bill and I have already bought tickets to the March brunch!

Outfit details

  • Dress: Amazon
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: Payless
  • Earrings: 25 Central

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Is crushed velvet my new favorite thing? It might be. Sue me.

Outfit details

  • Shirt: Target
  • Skirt: LuLaRoe
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Top: Marshall’s
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com (why yes, I do have six pairs)
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Blazer: Target
  • Shirt: Charlotte Russe
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Here’s what I did. (See: snuggling with dog.)

Things I Wore (and Did) in December 2017

Last December, I complained about not taking many outfit photos throughout the month, and it seems some things don’t change. Whoops!

Here are a few things I wore throughout this brutally cold month (and I do mean just a few).

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I wore this 90s-inspired look to see my favorite boy band, Backstreet Boys, perform at Mohegan Sun casino.

Outfit details

  • Shirt: Forever 21
  • Skirt: Forever 21
  • Boots: Rainbow (I think?)
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com

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I had been coveting a crushed velvet dress for months, so I finally bit the bullet and got myself one for my office holiday party. (I definitely also splurged on a crushed velvet pencil skirt but I haven’t worn it yet.) No regrets!

Outfit details

  • Dress: Forever 21
  • Cardigan: Forever 21
  • Boots: Rainbow (I think?)
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com

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After a successful day of shopping with Grandma (one of my favorite things to do), I ended up with these AMAZING slippers and needed to document them. Alas, this outfit was just for around the house. 😉

Outfit details

  • Fleece: Old Navy
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Slippers: Forever 21

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Not my favorite outfit or even the most flattering, but so ridiculously comfortable.

Outfit details

  • Dress: Ann Taylor Loft
  • Scarf: Payless (I think)
  • Boots: DSW

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Outfit details

  • Dress: Marshall’s
  • Tights: WeLoveColors.com
  • Boots: Rainbow
  • Necklace: 25 Central

And here’s what I did during December!

xo.

Things I Wore (and Did) in November 2017

I don’t have the perfect life—and some months are harder to get through than others. November was a tough one: my mental health is suffering; my job is, at times, challenging; and the month ended with some particularly disheartening and upsetting family drama.

I think, too often, we all get caught up in depicting a picture-perfect life with beautifully curated photos (that we’re reluctant to admit are only a few among dozens we took before we got the right one to post and share) and cherry-picked anecdotes (that leave out all of the messy, unflattering things that happen in between). We only show parts of our lives, partly because it’s completely unrealistic to share everything and partly because who wants to admit they’re struggling?

But we’re all struggling, at least in some way, and we’ve all got things going on in our lives at any given moment that may be vexing us, hurting us, or challenging us.

I try my best to keep this in mind as I scroll through my social media feeds day after day, seeing only the highlights from the lives of friends, family, colleagues, acquaintances, high school classmates, and celebrities, but sometimes it’s can be tough to keep that in perspective.

So, this is me, reminding myself that it’s all right if everything isn’t all right.

And also reminding myself that there’s nothing wrong with having a highlight reel if for no one but ourselves so that we can look back on the time (which goes by too quickly!) and appreciate the things we have. As someone who struggles with mental illness in the form of anxiety and depression, I often have trouble keeping things in perspective, of seeing the light at the end of the tunnel, and sometimes of just making it through the day. But I know that these monthly check-ins, where I look back on the month I’ve just experienced, are providing me with the ability to feel grateful for what I have even on days that feel dark.

With that said, there were many beacons of light that I experienced in November, which I’ve got to remind myself of: a perfect trip to Portsmouth with Bill; the satisfaction of a job well done on a massive project I worked on at work; beautiful sunsets; a rainbow; a book of poems I devoured; warm hot chocolate; a glowing Christmas tree in my wonderful home; a new therapist; a drag show featuring a few of my favorite RuPaul’s Drag Race queens; hundreds of happy moments with Bill; lots of dog kisses from Obi; making new friends at work; thoughtful daily texts from my Grandma; meme-sharing with my wonderful brother; laughter with friends, both online and off.

Amid all of that, here are some of the outfits I wore.

Outfit details

  • Dress: Fashion to Figure (has anyone else felt like their style has completely changed recently?)
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Boots: Rainbow

This is of my fave classic winter looks.

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

This dress is so creamy soft!

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  • Dress: Ann Taylor via 20 Below Boutique in Portsmouth
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Shirt: Target
  • Scarf: Unsure!
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Cozy, winter sweaters were what I lived in this month. I’m not a huge fan of the look of this one, but this is the same exact sweater (except for color) as the photo at the end of this post. In that photo, I think the sweater looks great. What gives?

Outfit details

  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Sweater: Forever 21
  • Leggings: Kohl’s
  • Boots: DSW

Bill called this my “Lorelai Gilmore” look, which delighted me.

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  • Sweater: Forever 21
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

Not really an outside-of-the-house outfit, but still! Festive!

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  • Sweater: Walmart
  • Leggings: Walmart
  • Sweater boots: Payless

This is one of my new favorite shirts! I added a Hocus Pocus patch, which I nabbed in Portsmouth (the patch itself is made by Laser Brain Patch Co.) to a cheap, black crewneck sweatshirt I grabbed on Amazon for $8. I got a ton of compliments on it and feel super proud even though all I did was iron the patch on.

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

And, here are some of the things I did.

xo.

Things I Wore (and Did) in August 2017

Sometimes life goes by faster than you realize and, before you know it, it’s mid-September and you haven’t posted your August outfits yet. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

In truth, August is not one of my favorite months, as by then, summer has gone on a touch too long for me. I get tired of the heat and find myself getting antsy for some cooler weather. Also, politically, life is a real shit show right now, so I’m just trying to make it through.

Work-wise, August was a busy month, a month in which I started to really sink my teeth in at my new job and lead my first big project. It was exciting, terrifying, stressful, and rewarding, and I’m glad to have done it.

Bill and I had a few adventures, too, the most notable being our wonderful weekend getaway with our dog, Obi! We also ate some delicious food (as we always do), celebrated our two year anniversary in our beautiful home, and made the most of the rest of our summer. Independently, I met up with my old colleagues and enjoyed the incredible solar eclipse that reminded me that it’s important to look around and appreciate the world around you every now and then.

Here are some of the things I wore and did, in photos!

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I became obsessed with these dresses in August, so much so that I ended up with three of them in different colors. This hot pink, Barbie-inspired dress is so flattering and easy to wear. I love it!

Outfit details

  • Dress: Amazon.com
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Top: Amazon.com
  • Leggings: Old Navy
  • Shoes: DSW
  • Cranky expression: Yours truly

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This dress is Barbie pink dress’s best friend! Isn’t it lovely in navy, too?

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  • Dress: Amazon.com
  • Shoes: Target
  • Necklace: Target

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Not quite a traditional outfit pic, but I do love this dress. It served me so well this summer.

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  • Dress: Target
  • Shoes (not pictured): Target

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  • Shirt: LuLaRoe Perfect T
  • Skirt: LuLaRoe Cassie
  • Shoes: DSW

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This is an Eeyore onesie because I deserve it.

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  • Eeyore Onesie: Target

And, some things I did (in photo form!).

xo.

Outfits of November

November was a trying month. It started with the election of Donald Trump, which I am still stunned by, and it ended with some messy, difficult work stuff that really impacted my morale.

But there were some bright spots: a friend who made me a gift to cheer me up; a fun Thanksgiving featuring Cards Against Humanity; the return of “Gilmore Girls”; good friends and coworkers and family; a perfect dog and husband; an invitation back to my alma mater to speak to a class about journalism; the Christmas season.

Here’s what I wore (clearly jeans + boots were my thang).

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Outfit details

  • Dandelion Shirt: Marshall’s
  • Pants: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Payless

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Outfit details

  • Dress: Target
  • Necklace: Hello Gorgeous Boutique (post coming soon with further details!)
  • Cardigan: Old Navy
  • Tights: We Love Colors
  • Boots: Payless

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  • Shirt: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Tank: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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  • Cardigan: Old Navy
  • Polka dot tank: Target
  • Tank: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW

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Outfit details

  • Black shirt: Target
  • Scarf: Unknown shop in Rome, Italy
  • Jeans: Old Navy
  • Boots: DSW


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  • Tan shirt: Amazon
  • Tank: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Marshall’s
  • Shoes: Payless

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  • Sweater: Old Navy
  • Jeans: Marshall’s
  • Boots: DSW

Things I Did

xo.