Just a reminder for the soon-to-be mamas—especially plus-size or fat soon-to-be mamas—out there, in case you needed to hear it…
In case some people have made you feel like your baby bump isn’t desirable
Or it’s too big
Or it’s too small
Or it doesn’t “pop” the way it should
Or it “pops” a little too much
Or it’s a B-bump rather than a traditional round bump
Or “you don’t even look pregnant!”
Or “Oh my God, you’re about to explode!”
Or your stretch marks feel too prominent
Or you struggle to get off the couch
Or you can’t reach your toes
Or you feel disgusting
Or you have moments of, “For how much longer can I do this?”
Or you hate the way you look
Or you love the way you look but others make you feel like you shouldn’t
Your body is good. Your baby bump is good. Your belly is good. You are good.
I’ve been feeling super grateful lately, especially as I’ve celebrated Baby C with not one but two baby showers recently.
Truth be told, I was dreading my baby shower. I do not do well as the center of attention in a room full of people where all eyes are on you. That’s one reason Bill and I straight up eloped.
But I knew my family was really excited about the addition to our family, so a baby shower felt right. I was feeling really, really fortunate that so many of my loved ones wanted to share in our joy and to celebrate me and Bill and our soon-to-be new addition to the family. And that deserved a little celebrating.
So, with the help of family, we were able to pull together a truly lovely baby shower that kept some traditions in tact and bucked others.
There were no games, the venue was described as “different” by some, and little to no pink despite 1) us having a girl and 2) pink being my favorite color. But we kept the important things: good company, good food, and good gifts. What more can you really ask for?
I got to do it all again, too, when my work family threw me a baby shower, too—and on my 31st birthday, to boot! Talk about a celebration.
Bill and I are still feeling so humbled by the outpouring of love, kindness, generosity, and support from the crew of wonderful family and friends around us as we’ve inched closer to Baby C making her triumphant debut. They say it takes a village, and we have felt that so hard these last few months as everyone has reached out to figure out how they can help—from sharing their gently-loved baby items to pitching in to help with house projects to contributing to baby’s wardrobe or nursery or straight up offering good vibes.
To our people: thank you. Baby C has no idea how lucky she is!